I love facebook.
I love reading blogs.
I love pinterest.
Having said that... While on facebook the other day I ran across a post that confused me. So I had to do a little investigating, and upon my investigation, what I found really upset me. A fellow party planner, Creative Juice, planned and put together a Potty Party to celebrate their child finally being potty trained. Any parent that has successfully gotten their child out of diapers knows what a BIG deal that is and what a huge accomplishment that can be, not only for the kid, but for mom and dad who NO LONGER have to drop $$$$$ on diapers!!! Whoo Hooo!!! Now, would I throw my kid a Potty Party... probably not. We celebrated that milestone by going to Monster Jam. To each their own. And her party was amazing. So cute... All the way from the cute little fondant undies that topped the cupcakes to the toilet paper wreath. But then, some blogger found her party utterly annoying and disliked it so much that she felt the need to rip her a new one by posting about it on her blog called People I Want to Punch in The Throat. Why would people even visit a blog with that name? That is so distasteful! She went on and on and on about how much she hated the idea of this party and just everything about it, that then other blog readers jumped on her band wagon and went on and on and on about how stupid they thought it was as well. And if that wasn't bad enough, then they went over to the Creative Juice blog to then comment again about how stupid of a party they thought it was... just flat out ugly, rude, and disrespectful comments. I just don't get how people can be so inconsiderate of other people's feelings. What ever happened to the "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" standard or what about "treat others the way you want to be treated"? I think too often people forget that their words can be so hurtful and damaging to a person's feeling of self worth.
I guess this all just hit too close to home for me because now that I've got this gig on tv, it just reminded me of how people have NO filters and don't think before they speak... or as now with facebook, blogs, and even pinterest, they can hide behind typing. People feel they can hide behind their computer screens and just lay it all out there, not even thinking of the damage their rude comments can have on others... when in all actuality, they would NEVER say anything like that to that person's face. I knew going into this co-hosting job that I would need to get some pretty thick skin, because as hard at it is to believe, not everyone is going to like me. (I know, crazy, huh?!) But the first time I saw a rude comment about me on facebook, it stung. A lot. And I wish I could say there's only been one hater, but that would be a lie. People must not think that the person they're bashing and tearing down has feelings, I guess, because I can't think of any other reason why they would do that, like what they have to say and their opinion is more important than the person's feelings they're trashing. What do they have to gain from it all? Does it make them feel better? I know I should just ignore it all, but that's so hard to do. They say, don't even check facebook... ummmm... do you even know me?? Like that would ever happen. I know there will always be haters. I can't control that... but I can control how I respond and react. And that is something that Mindy of Creative Juice has done gracefully. She has had so much support from other party gals and even got her party featured on Hostess With the Mostess! That's amazing!
So why? Why even go there? If you don't like it (or someone in my case), keep it to yourself. Instead of tearing each other down, how about we give a little praise? Would that kill ya? Or how about we just keep our sweet little pie holes shut...
If only the saying "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" were true...
It couldn't be any further from the truth...
Words hurt. Words sting. Words suck sometimes.
So, how about for 2012, we think before we speak.
I'm so thankful that I haven't had any P-n-P haters and I'm thankful for each and every one of my blog followers and facebook fans. They're the best.
So, from now on...
Anyone who feels the need to bash me and say ugly things to me via ciLiving's facebook page or e-mail will get the following response from me... "Bless your heart. Have a nice day!"